The Lost Art of the Postpartum Village
Why We Need Community More Than Ever
In many cultures throughout history, postpartum care was a communal effort. Families, friends, and neighbors gathered to support the new mother, providing food, care, and a sense of belonging during this transformative time. This "village" was not just a source of help—it was a lifeline for mothers as they healed and learned to navigate life with a newborn.
But in modern society, this village has largely disappeared. New mothers are often left to manage on their own, feeling isolated and overwhelmed. As a birth and postpartum doula, I’ve seen firsthand how rediscovering the concept of the postpartum village can transform a mother’s experience during this tender phase of life.
Why the Village Matters
The postpartum period, often referred to as the fourth trimester, is a time of immense physical recovery and emotional adjustment. Historically, mothers were nurtured by their communities, allowing them the time and space to bond with their babies and regain their strength. This support reduced stress, improved mental health, and fostered a sense of belonging.
Without this communal care, many mothers today face postpartum depression, burnout, and feelings of inadequacy. The truth is, humans are wired for connection—we thrive when supported by others.
What Does a Modern Postpartum Village Look Like?
Reviving the village doesn’t mean we have to replicate traditional setups exactly. Instead, we can adapt the essence of communal care to our modern lives. Here’s how:
1. Build Your Support Network
Start by identifying people who can support you in different ways—family, friends, doulas, and other professionals. Each person in your “village” can play a unique role:
A friend who drops off meals.
A family member who helps with older siblings.
A doula who offers emotional support and practical guidance.
2. Plan Ahead
Before your baby arrives, communicate your needs and set expectations with your village. Don’t hesitate to ask for specific help, whether it’s a few hours of babysitting, laundry assistance, or simply someone to sit with you and chat.
3. Lean into Professional Support
Postpartum doulas, lactation consultants, and therapists can be invaluable parts of your village. They offer expertise and care tailored to your postpartum recovery and parenting journey.
4. Create a Meal Train
A meal train is a simple yet powerful way to ensure you’re nourished. Friends and family can take turns providing meals or snacks, so you don’t have to worry about cooking during those early weeks.
5. Connect with Other Mothers
Motherhood can feel isolating, but it doesn’t have to be. Join local or online parent groups where you can share your experiences, exchange advice, and find comfort in knowing you’re not alone.
How to Be Part of Someone Else’s Village
Supporting a new mother can be one of the most meaningful things you do. Here are a few ways to show up:
Offer Practical Help: Do dishes, fold laundry, or hold the baby so the mother can shower or rest.
Bring Nourishing Food: Soups, stews, and snacks are always appreciated.
Listen Without Judgment: Let her share her feelings without offering unsolicited advice.
Celebrate Her: Remind her she’s doing an amazing job, even on the hard days.
The Ripple Effect of a Strong Village
When we restore the postpartum village, the benefits extend far beyond the mother. Babies thrive when their mothers are supported. Partners feel less pressure to be the sole source of help. Communities grow stronger when we come together in meaningful ways.
Let’s bring back the village, one family at a time. It starts with asking for help when we need it, offering help when we can, and remembering that we were never meant to do this alone.
What would your ideal postpartum village look like? If you’re not sure, let’s start the conversation—together, we can create the support system you deserve.
